Do I have an addiction? Psychological signs to know

We all have ways to cope with stress, such as enjoying sweets or scrolling through our phones. But what happens when those ways take over our minds and hearts? When something becomes hard to control, even if it hurts you, that can be a sign of addiction. Addiction isn’t just about drugs or alcohol, it can include things like gambling, shopping, or gaming too. This article helps you understand how to recognise addiction, why it happens, and what steps you can take to feel better.

TL;DR:

If you notice yourself using substances or behaviours to feel better, missing responsibilities, or feeling unable to stop even when it hurts, those are signs of addiction. Addiction shows up in thoughts, actions, and your body, not just habits. There is hope: understanding early signs and reaching out for help, like with Meela can start your path to recovery.

What exactly is addiction?

Addiction happens when your brain starts wanting something more than you do. It could be a drink, a drug, or an activity like gaming or shopping. At first, it might feel good or help you forget stress. However, over time, it can take over your thoughts, making it difficult to stop, even when it’s harming your life.

There are two main kinds:

1. Substance addiction (like alcohol, cannabis, opioids)

2. Behavioural addiction (like gambling, gaming, or shopping)

Both types change your brain, making you crave more and lose control.

How do I know if I might have an addiction?

Doctors look at patterns like this:

• You use more and more to feel good.

• You try to stop but can’t.

• You spend a lot of time getting or recovering from it.

• You keep using it even when it harms your health, work, or friendships.

You might notice:

• Doing things in secret.

• Missing school, work, or family time.

• Feeling anxious, sad, guilty, or angry if you can’t do it.

• Physical signs like tiredness, weight changes, or tremors.

Why does addiction happen?

Addiction isn’t just about willpower. It has real causes:

• Brain biology: Substances or behaviours change your brain’s reward system. Neurons release dopamine and teach the brain to want more.

• Genetics: If other people in your family have struggled with addiction, you may have a higher risk.

• Stress & emotions: Using something to feel better about feeling lonely, scared, or sad.

• Life experiences: Hard or scary childhoods, trauma, or losing someone can shape how you cope.

What does addiction feel like?

In your head

Addiction often starts in your thoughts. You might find yourself constantly thinking about when you’ll get the next drink, pill, bet, or scroll. It’s like your mind starts to revolve around it, even when you’re doing something else. That “pull” can feel impossible to ignore. You might feel anxious, guilty, or even scared if you can’t access it. And sometimes, the need feels stronger than your actual desire, as if your brain wants it more than you do.

In your body

Your body also reacts when you can’t get the thing it’s used to. You might feel jumpy, shaky, sweaty, or nauseous. Sleep becomes harder, your appetite may change, and your energy levels drop. These are called withdrawal symptoms, and they can happen with substances like alcohol, drugs, or even caffeine. But even behavioral addictions, like gambling or gaming, can leave your body feeling tense and on edge when you try to stop. It’s your body’s way of saying, “Something’s missing,” even if that thing is harming you.

In your life

Addiction can slowly change how you show up in the world. You might find yourself skipping work, pulling away from loved ones, or losing interest in hobbies you once loved. Bills may pile up, or arguments might increase in your relationships. You may start feeling isolated or ashamed, like you’re no longer in control of your choices. Over time, addiction doesn’t just affect your brain and body, it changes how you live, connect, and care for yourself.

What can you do right now?

1. Notice changes early: You can do better than suffering in secret. Feeling stuck or having urges means it might be time to reach out.

2.Talk with someone you trust: A friend, family member, or counsellor can help you feel less alone and take the first step.

3. Reach out for help: Addiction is treatable. Support groups, therapy, and medical care work, even for behavioural addictions like gambling.

4. Build healthy routines: Find small replacements like walks, drawing, music, or pet time. They don’t need to be big, just moments that remind you who you are.

5. Be kind to yourself: It’s okay to slip up. Change takes time. Keep going and remind yourself that every step forward matters.

How Meela supports you

At Meela, we believe you deserve support that fits your life. Whether you’re struggling with substance use or a behavioural addiction, we can connect you with therapists who truly understand and care. You can choose online therapy if home feels safer, or in-person support if face-to-face feels right. We take time to match you with someone who fits your needs, so your healing journey feels safe, doable, and full of hope. You don’t have to face this alone.