What can you do as a loved one of someone with depression?

Recognizing signs of depression in a loved one can be challenging and emotionally difficult. However, being attentive and offering support is crucial. This guide will help you understand how to assist a family member, partner, or friend struggling with depression.

What is depression?

Depression is a mental health condition characterized by persistent feelings of sadness, fatigue, and hopelessness. It affects thoughts, behaviors, and relationships, making everyday life difficult. Symptoms usually last for more than two weeks and often require professional treatment for relief.

Common signs of depression in a loved one.

Recognizing the signs early can help you provide timely support. Here are some common symptoms to watch for:

• Loss of interest: The person no longer enjoys activities or hobbies they once valued.
• Social withdrawal: Pulling away from family and friends, showing less engagement in relationships.
• Sleep problems: Difficulty falling asleep, sleeping too little, or excessive sleeping.
• Irritability: Easily annoyed or angry over small things.
• Changes in appetite: Irregular eating habits or noticeable weight gain or loss.

How can you help someone with depression?

1. Ask and listen.

Start by gently asking how they’re feeling. Share your concerns and listen without judgment. It might feel uncomfortable, but showing you care is an important first step. For example: “I’ve noticed you seem down lately. How are you really feeling?” “I’m here for you if you want to talk.”

2. Show you care, even without words.

If they open up, you might not always know what to say. You don’t need to fix things or offer advice,  just listen and be supportive. Keep in mind:

• Be present
• Avoid minimizing their feelings
• Instead of “I totally understand,” say “I’m here for you. What do you need?”

3. Offer practical help.

If they’re open to it, support them with everyday tasks, such as:

• Finding information about treatments
• Accompanying them to a doctor or therapist
• Helping with household chores or other responsibilities

Where can you or your loved one get help?

There are several resources available:

• Primary care centers: For initial assessments and referrals to psychologists or psychiatrists.
• Youth clinics and school counselors: Safe spaces for younger individuals seeking support.
• Psychologists and psychotherapists via Meela: Find licensed professionals specializing in depression.

Being a loved one of someone with depression can be emotionally challenging, but your support makes a big difference. Ask, listen, and show care without feeling pressured to have all the answers. Together, you can seek help and find tools to manage the situation. No one should face depression alone.